Neena Gupta is often called ‘brave’ for raising a daughter without getting married. The actress was in a relationship with cricketer Viv Richards. She had first met him at a dinner party hosted by the Maharani of Jaipur. They had a relationship and soon she was pregnant. In her autobiography, ‘Sach Kahun Toh’, the actress admitted that she was advised by many to have an abortion and not have a baby without marriage but she chose to continue with her pregnancy and gave birth to a daughter, Masaba Gupta. Now in a recent interview, Neena has revealed that she has not made any brave decision. The actress said that one doesn’t decide such things in life but sometimes, a person goes through some circumstances which makes them take some decisions and hence they shouldn’t be judged based on that. She said in an interview with Humans Of Bombay, “Maine kabhi yeh decision nai liya tha ke bina shadi ke bacha paida karungi. (I had never thought or decided that I will have a baby without getting married). Circumstances put you in situations where you to choose certain things, where you have no way out.”
She further recalled that she was once engaged to a guy who ditched her last minute and didn’t marry her. “I was engaged to one guy who ditched me at the last minute. We had exchanged rings, I was engaged. I had gone to buy my wedding clothes to Delhi and then he says, ‘abhi shadi nai karni’. He said, ‘mujhe sinus ka operation karaana hai. I said sinus ka operation to baadmein bhi ho sakta hai.’ (He told me he wants to undergo a sinus operation). Uske mummy, papa, sabko maine pucha, why he doesn’t want to get married and till today I don’t know.” Gupta further added, “He came to me after 6months and said let’s marry, I said ‘f**k off’ now I don’t want. Even then I asked the reason. Then he wanted to marry me but didn’t tell me the reason. So, we don’t know circumstances, we make decisions majboori mein. Let’s not judge people based on their decisions.” The actress further revealed how she remains unbothered about the opinions of others and how people percieve her. “Let people say what they want, na aap mujhe financial madad kar rahe hai aur na emotional madad kar rahe hai. (Neither are you going to come and help me emotionally or financially, so why should I even listen to you). If you’re my friend and I have a relationship with you, you can come and tell me.” Neena further gave some advice to young girls and said, “Young girls ko main yeh kahungi, agar aap mere jaise bina shadi se bacha paida karna chaahte ho, bohot mushkil hai, mat karna. Don’t do it because someone has done it. (My advice to all the young girls is that do not even think of having a baby without getting married, just because I did. It’s very difficult, don’t do it).” She further added, “My second advice is that, acting in TV or films is not a very nice profession. Agar aap uske bina nai reh sakte ho toh karo. If I have done well, I don’t get the fruit of it. It depends on so many factors, and not just how I’ve done – film bane, release ho, successful ho sab ek saath ho toh ho sakta hai (A film gets made nicely, the script is nice, it is successful, many factors come together for you to get success).” Go to Source
