Quote of the day by Dale Carnegie: “When we have accepted the worst, we have nothing more to lose. And that automatically means…”

Quote
of
the
day
by
Dale
Ca egie
(Image:
Wikipedia)

Fea
ofte
g ows
st o gest
exactly
whe
someo e
imagi es
eve ythi g
that
could
possibly
go
w o g.
The
possibility
of
failu e
ca
make
a
u ce tai
situatio
feel
co side ably
wo se
tha
it
actually
is,
sometimes
stoppi g
a
pe so
f om
taki g
a y
actio
at
all.
Dale
Ca egie
offe ed
a
ge ui ely
diffe e t
way
of
app oachi g
a
difficult
situatio
i
his
book
How
to
Stop
Wo yi g
a d
Sta t
Livi g.
“Whe
we
have
accepted
the
wo st,
we
have
othi g
mo e
to
lose,”
he
w ote.
“A d
that
automatically
mea s,
we
have
eve ythi g
to
gai !”
No e
of
this
suggests
people
should
expect
the
wo st
o
simply
give
up
hope.
I stead,
Ca egie
is
a gui g
that
actually
accepti g
a
u favou able
possibility
ca
educe
the
fea
su ou di g
it
co side ably.
O ce
the
mi d
fi ally
stops
fighti g
the
possibility
of
failu e,
the e
te ds
to
be
fa
mo e
oom
left
ove
to
thi k
clea ly,
make
a
eal
decisio
a d
sta t
looki g
fo
a
actual
way
fo wa d.

Quote
of
the
day
by
Dale
Ca egie

“Whe
we
have
accepted
the
wo st,
we
have
othi g
mo e
to
lose.
A d
that
automatically
mea s,
we
have
eve ythi g
to
gai !”

Whe e
this
quote
actually
comes
f om

This
li e
appea s
i
Ca egie’s
ow
book,
whe e
he
illust ates
the
exact
idea
th ough
eal
sto ies
of
people
who
used
it
du i g
ge ui e
mome ts
of
c isis.
O e
example
he
gives
is
Willis
H.
Ca ie ,
a
e gi ee
who
faced
a
se ious
p ofessio al
setback
a d
late
desc ibed
the
effect
of
applyi g
this
app oach
di ectly.

“Afte
faci g
the
wo st,”
Ca ie
epo tedly
said,
“I
immediately
elaxed
a d
felt
a
se se
of
peace
that
I
had ‘t
expe ie ced
i
days.”
Ca egie
also
desc ibes
Ea l
P.
Ha ey,
who
applied
the
same
u de lyi g
p i ciple
afte
co f o ti g
a
se ious
pe so al
diag osis,
eco cili g
himself
to
the
wo st
outcome
a d
the
delibe ately
t yi g
to
get
the
most
out
of
whateve
time
emai ed.
Ca egie
summa ised
the
whole
app oach
as
a
simple
th ee-step
p ocess,
ask
what
the
wo st
ealistic
outcome
actually
is,
p epa e
you self
me tally
to
accept
it,
the
calmly
t y
to
imp ove
o
the
ve y
wo st
you
have
al eady
ag eed
to
accept.

What
the
quote
by
Dale
Ca egie
is
actually
sayi g

Ca egie’s
message
is
eally
about
educi g
fea
by
di ectly
co f o ti g
the
exact
outcome
someo e
is
most
af aid
of.
Whe
a
pe so
is
u ce tai
about
what
might
actually
happe ,
they
ca
spe d
a
st iki g
amou t
of
time
imagi i g
i c easi gly
egative
sce a ios,
which
te ds
to
make
the
whole
situatio
feel
co side ably
mo e
ove whelmi g
tha
it
eally
is.
Ca egie
suggests
me tally
ack owledgi g
the
wo st
ealistic
outcome
di ectly.
O ce
that
outcome
has
ge ui ely
bee
accepted,
the
fea
su ou di g
it
te ds
to
lose
a
good
deal
of
its
powe ,
a d
a ythi g
bette
tha
that
outcome
sta ts
to
look
like
a
ge ui e
gai .

Why
accepti g
the
wo st
ca
ge ui ely
shift
someo e’s
mi dset

Imagi e
someo e
wo ied
about
losi g
thei
job.
Befo e
maki g
a y
eal
decisio ,
they
might
epeatedly
pictu e
the
co seque ces,
fi a cial
p essu e,
u ce tai ty
a d
the
difficulty
of
fi di g
a othe
positio .
If
they
i stead
ack owledge
that
losi g
the
job
is
ge ui ely
possible,
a d
sta t
actually
co side i g
what
they
would
do
afte wa d,
the
whole
situatio
becomes
fa
mo e
co c ete.
They
ca
update
thei
CV,
sha pe
a
skill,
co tact
pote tial
employe s
a d
take
a
p ope
look
at
thei
fi a ces.
The
u ce tai ty
itself
has
ot
disappea ed.
Thei
actual
espo se
to
it
has
cha ged
co side ably.

Why
accepta ce
is
ge ui ely
ot
the
same
thi g
as
givi g
up

This
is
o e
of
the
most
impo ta t
disti ctio s
u i g
th ough
Ca egie’s
message.
Accepti g
a
possible
egative
outcome
does
ot
mea
delibe ately
choosi g
it,
o
stoppi g
a y
effo t
to
p eve t
it
f om
happe i g.
It
mea s
ecog isi g
ho estly
that
the
outcome
is
possible,
athe
tha
letti g
fea
of
it
domi ate
eve y
si gle
thought.
A
pe so
ca
accept
that
a
busi ess
might
ge ui ely
fail
while
still
wo ki g
ext emely
ha d
to
save
it.
Someo e
ca
ack owledge
that
a
applicatio
may
be
ejected
while
still
p epa i g
fo
it
ca efully.
Accepta ce,
i
this
se se,
coexists
pe fectly
well
with
ge ui e
effo t.

Why
fea
so
ofte
makes
a
p oblem
look
bigge
tha
it
actually
is

Fea
te ds
to
ope ate
th ough
u ce tai ty.
Whe
people
ge ui ely
do
ot
k ow
what
will
happe ,
the
mi d
fills
i
the
gaps
with
imagi ed
possibilities,
a d
sometimes
those
imagi ed
outcomes
e d
up
feeli g
fa
mo e
f ighte i g
tha
the
actual
situatio
eve
was.
Co f o ti g
the
wo st
ealistic
possibility
places
eal
bou da ies
a ou d
that
u ce tai ty.
I stead
of
e dlessly
aski g
what
if
eve ythi g
goes
w o g,
a
pe so
ca
sta t
aski g
what
they
would
actually
do
ext
if
it
did.
That
si gle
questio
tu s
fea
i to
somethi g
close
to
pla i g.

What
“eve ythi g
to
gai ”
actually
mea s
he e

Ca egie’s
seco d
poi t
follows
atu ally
f om
the
fi st.
O ce
a
pe so
has
al eady
accepted
the
wo st
ealistic
outcome,
eve y
imp oveme t
beyo d
that
poi t
becomes
a
ge ui e
pote tial
gai .
A
failed
attempt
ca
still
p ovide
eal
expe ie ce.
A
ejectio
ca
eveal
exactly
what
eeds
imp ovi g.
A
difficult
cha ge
ca
ope
up
a
oppo tu ity
to
t y
a
ge ui ely
diffe e t
app oach.
The
pe so
may
ot
get
the
exact
esult
they
o igi ally
wa ted,
but
the
situatio
ca
still
co tai
eal
possibilities
that
we e
simply
difficult
to
see
while
fea
domi ated
thei
thi ki g
e ti ely.

How
this
idea
applies
di ectly
to
failu e

Failu e
ca
feel
ge ui ely
devastati g
whe
someo e
t eats
it
as
a
outcome
that
must
eve
happe
u de
a y
ci cumsta ces.
O ce
failu e
is
ecog ised
i stead
as
o e
possible
pa t
of
a
lo ge
p ocess,
it
becomes
co side ably
easie
to
p epa e
fo
p ope ly.
No e
of
this
makes
failu e
pleasa t.
It
simply
p eve ts
the
fea
of
failu e
f om
g owi g
so
powe ful
that
it
stops
someo e
expe ime ti g
o
t yi g
at
all.
Ma y
wo thwhile
goals
i volve
epeated
attempts,
a d
a
pe so
who
ca
ecove
f om
a
u successful
o e
te ds
to
lea
co side ably
mo e,
ove
time,
tha
someo e
who
avoids
taki g
a y
isk
whatsoeve .

Othe
memo able
quotes
by
Dale
Ca egie

Why
this
quote
still
matte s
today

U ce tai ty
u s
th ough
almost
eve y
majo
decisio
a yo e
makes.
Ca ee
cha ges,
fi a cial
choices
a d
pe so al
ambitio s
all
ca y
some
ge ui e
possibility
of
failu e
attached
to
them.
The
i sti ctive
espo se
is
usually
to
avoid
thi ki g
about
the
wo st
outcome
altogethe .
Ca egie
suggests
doi g
ve y
ea ly
the
opposite,
faci g
it
di ectly,
u de sta di g
it
p ope ly
a d
wo ki g
out
exactly
how
you
would
espo d
if
it
actually
happe ed.
O ce
the
fea
of
the
u k ow
tu s
i to
a
co c ete
possibility
that
ca
ge ui ely
be
pla ed
fo ,
it
te ds
to
become
co side ably
easie
to
focus
o
whateve
ca
still
actually
be
achieved.
The
quote’s
eal
lesso
was
eve
about
expecti g
failu e.
It
is
about
educi g
the
powe
fea
holds
ove
someo e
by
bei g
willi g
to
face
ge ui e
u ce tai ty
head
o .

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